You May Experience
Overthinking Your Relationships
Disproportionate Emotional Reactions
Surface Level Relationships
Connected Brain Counseling offers counseling and neurofeedback therapy for issues with attachment in Denver
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Connected Brain Counseling's Approach to Attachment Therapy
Your attachment style can fluctuate throughout your lifetime, did you know that!? There is no better proof or hope of healing than knowing that you can change the way you relate to others and feel more successful in your relationships. Though we are biased, we believe that therapy is the best place to start this journey of understanding your attachment style.
What to Expect In Attachment Therapy
In therapy, your licensed professional counselor will take your childhood, relationships with your parents and/or primary caregivers in order to understand how attachment was developed in your upbringing. Additionally, clients may recommend to discuss understanding what type of attachment style category they fall into. While this is an important piece of information for your therapist to know, it may often not be the primary focus of discussion on the surface between therapist and client.
What are the Attachment Styles?
The Four Attachment Styles
1. Secure Attachment Style
2. Anxious Attachment Style
3. Avoidant Attachment Style
4. Dismissive Attachment Style
Anxious Attachment Styles
Understanding Anxious Attachment Styles
Individuals who struggle with issues associated with anxious attachment styles may find them selves overthinking relationships, over functioning and worrying about staying close with their partner.
While it is important to note that this is not the only way an individual may relate to their partner, when a client in therapy notices stress regarding relating to a partner, friendship, boss or family member, the possibility of an anxious attachment style may be discussed with your licensed professional counselor.
If you find yourself in need of constant and continual reassurance regarding the security of your relationship, you may resonate with having an anxious attachment style. Additionally, features of codependency frequently show with those who have an anxious attachment style.
Codependency is defined as, "Codependency is a way of behaving in relationships where you persistently prioritize someone else over you, and you assess your mood based on how they behave. Vicki Botnick, a marriage and family therapist in Tarzana, CA, explains that codependency often involves a sense of forgetting 'where you end and your partner begins.'" [Psych Central]
Trouble setting boundaries?
Having a hard time setting boundaries without feeling guilt, shame or distance from your partner may be a telling sign of an anxious attachment style. From a developmental perspective, anxious attachment styles may be reinforced when a parent figure encourages a child to abandon their own needs in order to maintain closeness. This is not always explicit, and often a child learns to abandon their needs in order to soothe their parents emotional dysregulation or because their parents, too, are abandoning their needs.
Avoidant Attachment Style
Avoidant Attachment Styles are characterized by a fear of not having their needs met within a relationship (including friendships, work partnerships, etc) and therefore creating distance in order to feel protected. Often, individuals who have avoidant attachment styles will avoid relationships or have many short relationships in order to avoid the risk of vulnerability and closeness that come with time.